How do I know which divorce option is right for me?
Here is a comparison:
- Completely private.
- No court appearances necessary.
- Focused on best outcome for the family as a whole.
- Focused on setting a foundation for a healthy future, specifically for children.
- Focused on developing effective communication skills.
- Generates the best options for raising children together in the future.
- Treats each family as unique. Different emotions, different needs, different situation.
- Various experts are involved to help the couple make decisions about each aspect of the divorce.
- Considers more than just the legal side—but also the emotional, spiritual, and relational facets of a divorce.
- The collaborative process incorporates family and relational experts to help manage emotions that may interfere with the decision-making process.
- Completing the necessary legal steps and paperwork to finalize your divorce.
- Can be private.
- Court appearance may be necessary.
- A mediator's job is to help facilitate a conversation between you and your spouse.
- The focus is on reaching agreement through a neutral party helping to generate options.
- In mediation you may not have a legal expert/advocate to assist you.
- Mediators are Neutral parties and can NOT advise you on your legal rights.
- Mediation is a two-step process which doesn’t in and of itself get you divorced. You still have to draft and file the legal paperwork necessary to formally get your marriage dissolved.
- NOT Private.
- Court dates and appearances necessary.
- Litigation is by far the MOST EXPENSIVE divorce option!
- Litigation involves many formal steps in service to the court's less efficient bureaucratic system.
- In litigation the court will strongly encourage you and your spouse to reach a settlement or agreement on all of the issues by making you participate in financial and parenting meetings designed to help you settle all issues in your divorce, like a forced mediation.
- Almost all litigation divorce cases settle before you have a trial date.
- Litigation is entrenched in the ADVERSARIAL process that produces winners and losers.
- You or your lawyer will be forced to jump through expensive and exhausting administrative procedures/steps.
- The process pushes for settlement. However, if an agreement can not be reached you will present your case before a judge to have them determine the outcome.